Alone in a Crowd
by Carol Taylor

For most of us, the Feast of Tabernacles is a whirlwind of feasting, fellowship and fun. But there are some for whom it leaves a lot to be desired. Every year a great many people travel to the Feast of Tabernacles alone. Some have mates that are not in the Church, some are college students separated from their families, and others are unmarried singles or new people. And, sadly, there are some that come alone who may spend the greater portion of their Feast alone, even though they are in a crowd of people. Nehemiah 8:12 tells us that when the Jews returned out of captivity and learned of God's Feast of Tabernacles, they "ate and drank joyfully and shared what they had with others" (New Living Translation).

There are many reasons why some do not connect easily with others at the Feast. Some may have barely made it there financially and cannot join groups going out to eat unless their way is paid. There are others who are shy and have difficulty making friends or may be new and don't know the 'ropes' yet.

"Sharing with others" is an indication we should not forget those who come to the Feast alone. They are some of the "others" that most need our support and encouragement. We all want to help these people have a more enjoyable Feast for we know that "If one member suffers, all the members suffer with it..." I Corinthians 12:26 But care must be taken not to offend or create awkward situations. For instance, if you are inviting someone out to lunch, make it clear whether it is 'Dutch' (they pay their own way) or your treat. Or get a group together for cheese and crackers, a picnic or potluck where everyone brings a little something.

And though we are all aware that if a man wants to have friends he must himself be friendly (Proverbs 18:24), we aren't all gifted with easygoing personalities and winning manners. Some find it very difficult to start up conversations with strangers and often feel they have nothing to offer if they do. Don't assume someone who heads for the exit right after Church has a pressing engagement. It might be that he or she finds socializing embarrassing and awkward. We need to seek these people out and include them in our plans whenever possible.

And let's not forget those who are new in the Church, who might think that unless there's an activity planned, they should to be in their hotel room praying and studying. We should help them understand that fellowshipping is part of God's desire at the Feast as well. They may also be on a limited budget if they started coming to Church only recently. The Feast can be a great time for us to share both our physical and spiritual wealth with our new Brethren!

These things can make or break the Feast, not only for those that come alone but also for those mentioned in the last article "Give a Portion to Three". Be sure to read it on the "Bible Studies, Sermons, Seminars, Articles page" to be aware of others who may get overlooked at the Feast. If we'll all make it a point to 'adopt' one or two people who might otherwise be alone, we will all have a better time. The Feast is a time to share and be a family. At this year's Feast let's make sure no one is left out!